14 Simple Lessons I Learned On Slowing Down

#8 You are not important

Param Hegde


Slow down board, with the inner meaning to slow down rushing yourself in life.
Photo by LOGAN WEAVER on Unsplash

From time to time, I come to a point when I realize — perhaps, I should have slowed down a bit.

Have you felt that way before?

It is easy to get going pursuing dreams, goals and whatever excites you, day in day out, for months together and burn out.

Energy oscillates like a pendulum. When you have high energy, you produce something from that energy. You spend it. Sometimes you go overboard and burn out. When energy moves from high end to the low end, you feel the need to rest.

Just like the engine, our body and mind work the best with optimal use. neither too much use nor too much rest is good. There should be a middle ground, or perhaps, for me, a little more than the middle ground seems optimal.

I have been in that situation multiple times. I think of planning for downtime — call it vacation or time off. I don’t execute as much as I wish to. As things happen, it doesn’t feel like you need one, but when something goes bad, you regret.

I used to think, working from home would help and give me better time to rejuvenate. After the Covid-19, that’s not true. Irrespective of how many days we stay at home and sure, there are benefits that I would not have realized before, but if there are things lurking in the mind, the mind can’t be so free as it could be. Break is needed for the mind.

It reminds me of an old story of young peasant, who travels so far from his village to go away from all the worries and stresses of life but nothings changes.

What good it is to travel so far while you carry all the things that bother you in your mind?

We say, we need to live in the present, forget the past, don’t think about the future and enjoy the present moment. It is easier said than done.

Some of the things that I have tried that have helped me to slow down

1) Having role models that I could relate to. I have few friends whom I can closely relate to, my age, my style of work and life, they are not perfect but I look up to them for how to slow down in day to day living. Like this one guy, who walks so…



Param Hegde

Senior Manager in Corporate IT in his early 40’s. Curious Observer at work and life. Sharing learning and experiences through interesting stories.